Feeling Confident & Worthy
July 16, 2018
If they say fashion can have an effect on your confidence, then this is a post for any self-doubters! Following along on my Instagram, you’ll see that I recently went to the Rose Bowl Flea Market in Pasadena for the first time where I purchased myself this skirt for about $15.00. I’d been wanting to get a vintage floral skirt like this for a while now, so I was glad to have stumbled across this.
With purchase in hand, I had a bit of a “what now?” moment. Could I actually pull off this skirt without looking like a total grandma or like someone who just walked out of the Amish village? Straight to Pinterest I went! Unfortunately, here I found myself either uninspired or left with major FOMO. These girls were styling their floral skirts with jumpers, sneakers, and all sorts of other adorably paired pieces that I just didn’t own. Why did I feel the need to replicate others’ styles, or feel ‘less than’ for not having the exact same jumper or shoe to pull the look together? Doubt immediately crept into my mind and I let it get the best of me (for about 10 minutes total that is..). I shut the app, pulled myself together, and marched right into my wardrobe where I had a plethora of perfectly decent clothes to choose from.
Finally, I managed to piece together a look I felt comfortable in, & took it for a spin later that week to one of my absolute favourite vegan restaurants in Los Angeles, Gracias Madre. This was the outfit to a T, and I knew it would be my new go-to favourite date night outfit for the foreseeable future (*edit – it’s currently scorching hot in LA so perhaps I’ll be saving this for when autumn rolls around!).
A quick 5-minute browse in my wardrobe and my worries were gone. Preventing doubt from seeping into my creativity is something I’m working on. I used to be so adventurous (maybe a little too adventurous…) in high school – experimenting with my style constantly. So, I’m trying to get that confidence back and recognise that I’m just as worthy of playing with styles as those on Pinterest!
If not styled properly, I think the skirt could look quite frumpy. So, I wanted to contrast the textures a wee bit by pairing it with the chunky jumper. This jumper has a beautiful boat neck that feels very feminine. It’s an old one from Banana Republic that I’ll continue to wear until I’ve completely destroyed it. Throw on heels and the outfit is taken from daytime to night.
I completed the outfit with this Vele clutch I got a few months back. I didn’t own a black clutch before that I felt was versatile enough for any outfit. This one has suited me perfectly and has received multiple compliments! What I love about this Los Angeles-based company’s mission is that they partner with artisans who treat their work as art and are paid fair wages. 10% of all proceeds are then donated to Not for Sale that works to prevent human trafficking.
Another reason I love Vele, is their motto: “You are worthy. You are wanted.” This resonates deeply with me and I’m reminded every time I use their purse (not shown in this post) with this message inscribed on the inside.
This Is Vele Bag (use code ‘VELESAM’ for 20% off your first order)
Photos by Mo Summers
Next time you’re considering a date night look, think about how good you will feel in the outfit vs. what you think the person sitting across from you will appreciate. I’ve started taking this into account recently, and am feeling more confident in myself because of this “You are worthy. You are wanted.” approach. I hope anyone facing self-doubt can start to think this way as well and gain a little confidence back. After all, confidence is the best thing a girl can wear!