Finding Joy in Wedding Planning
February 26, 2019
It’s no surprise that planning a wedding is stressful (I’d say the most stressful thing I’ve ever done in my life) but there are plenty of opportunities for joy during the process.
Believe it or not, our one year anniversary is just around the corner which means I’ve had plenty of time to reflect on the process now that it’s done and dusted! I’ve got a few betrothed (or soon-to-be) friends so I’m hoping this post proves even a little bit useful.
I wish I made an effort to enjoy the wedding planning process more whilst in the throw of it all. Hindsight is 20/20, of course. I found myself rushing from one task to the next, eager to check off another box and be closer to the big day. As the big day approached, we needed to figure out our seating chart. As silly as it may seem, I had always wanted to buy a big poster board and use little post-it-notes to assign seats. It was just something that looked like a “must-do” before the big day and I manage to convince Eddie to indulge me.
So, we decided to make a night of it. We pulled out some of the best vegan cream cheese I’ve ever had (it’s phenomenal! You can grab it from the vegan fridge section at Ralphs, but I’ve also linked it here for you!), some water crackers, and a bottle of French wine to get us fully in the spirit!
It was just the two of us at home this night, so we popped on some lovely music, lit the candles, and made sure to really savour the moment (something we hadn’t done with any of the other items on our wedding to-do list!)
We sat down, wine in hand, and made our seating chart… and then redid it… and then redid it again… and then it got changed a couple day’s before the wedding again! But that’s just what happens when planning a wedding! Rarely will it all go according to plan. Everyone says to just roll with the punches and enjoy the ride, but I know just how hard that is to do when you’re in the thick of it all.
I promise you that not everyone will be happy with your day and it really shouldn’t matter. So long as you and your future spouse are happy, that truly is all that’s important. Keep that in mind with each item needing checked off your long list. I certainly think it becomes easier as the big day approaches and less f*cks are given because you just want to bloody enjoy the thing already! But if you can try to keep this in mind from beginning to end, you will be in a much happier mental state when your big day finally arrives.
Drink all the wine, slow it down a bit, and remember why you’re going through all this trouble to begin with. Hearing this advice when recently engaged went in one ear and out the other (as does most advice for me!) but it really started to click for me on this night and I eventually loosened up within about a month before the wedding date. Heck, I was in France a week before (making sure everything was in order before guests arrived) and I was happily eating croissants, bread, wine and all the delicious food I could get my hands on! That’s how relaxed I became! 😀
If you’re engaged (or have some inkling that it’s coming soon!!), I hope you can keep all of this in mind as you and your future spouse battle it out over which colour napkins you want your guests to have. It really doesn’t matter in the end – so long as you have fun!